Wednesday, October 08, 2008

Vanity



Below is an excerpt of a review with the author of a recently published book titled My Beautiful Mommy written to help parents discuss plastic surgery with their young children.

"Many parents don't explain to their kids what's going on," said the father of four, with his fifth child on the way. "Children are very perceptive. You can't hide a major surgery from them. When mom goes down for two weeks after a tummy tuck it affects them."



Illustrations show a crook-nosed mom with loose tummy skin under her half shirt picking up her young daughter early from school one day and taking her to a strapping and handsome "Dr. Michael."

Mom explains she's going to have operations on her nose and tummy and may have to take it easy for a week or so. The girl asks if the operations will hurt, and mom replies, "Maybe a little," warning she'll look different after the bandages come off.

The girl asks: "Why are you going to look different?"

Mom responds: "Not just different, my dear — prettier!"


This type of children's book was inevitable with the choice for elective plastic surgery increasing by almost 500% in the past ten years. However, this book was written by a plastic surgeon, not by a child psychologist. I think there is a clear conflict of interest here. Mothers (and fathers for that matter) are going to see this book as confirmation that there is nothing wrong with having lipo to help her "loose those last 15 baby pounds". The doctor who wrote this book has one agenda, to further his practice by making parents think it's ok to hand a book to a child and expect the surgery to fix all their woes.

2 Peter 2:18-19

18 For speaking out arrogant words of vanity they entice by fleshly desires, by sensuality, those who barely escape from the ones who live in error,
19 promising them freedom while they themselves are slaves of corruption; for by what a man is overcome, by this he is enslaved.
20 For if, after they have escaped the defilements of the world by the knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they are again entangled in them and are overcome, the last state has become worse for them than the first.
21 For it would be better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than having known it, to turn away from the holy commandment handed on to them.


Christian parents don't need to purchase this book or undergo elective plastic surgery when the Bible speaks directly to the issue of vanity.

I Timothy 2:9-10

9 Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments,
10 but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.


I'm concerned that daughters who look to their mothers for guidance about body image are getting a dangerous message from this book, that something is wrong with you on the outside and getting surgery will help you feel better on the inside. It's possible this author/doctor is prepping his next generation of clients by enlisting their parents help to give children this book.

Titus 2:3-5

3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good,
4 so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.

5 comments:

chandy said...

I think this story is just tragic :(

It reminds me of someone my mom knew of... a "friend of a friend" who decided to get cosmetic surgery. She was a wife and mother in her mid thirties with several young children. She died on the operating table due to complications during her tummy tuck. I'm very saddened by the way women worship their own appearances and the sacrifices they make for them.

Laura said...

Thanks for your comment Chandy.

I agree that this is a tragic situation. I hope more moms will see this book and give a second thought to their decision for elective plastic surgery. Maybe reading this book will help them think about the lasting effect surgery has on their daughter's mental and emotional health.

At least that's what my prayer is.

D.L. White said...

This story gave me the chills... I had to re-read the quotes and stared at the snapshots of the book in disbelief. I mean, seriously? I just got a little sick to my stomach. No wonder so many young girls have such distorted perceptions of their bodies... when their mothers are setting these examples.

D.L. White said...

Oh and what's funny is... I think the "before" illustration is much prettier and normal looking. It doesn't even look like there's anything wrong with her. The "after" illustration looks creepy.

Laura said...

It just blows my mind that a plastic surgeon wrote this book as if he's an expert on anything except cutting and stapling.